Sometimes I am inclined to post about thoughts that get triggered by events in my office. This week I have seen more than one family presenting with a teenager who has anger management issues at home. This can be a significant issues in families but it is more complicated in cases like these where one parent (or in some cases both parents) also have an anger management issues at home. I feel I have no credibility with a teenager when I discuss managing their feeling of anger better when there is a parent that does not. When you go to work most people understand there is a certain level of behavior that is required and beyond that is unacceptable. I believe we need to develop the same standards for home life.
Anger is a normal feeling; we all get feelings of anger. We just don't get to do whatever we want because we are angry. We are the role models for most of our children's behaviors as they grow into adulthood. If we want our children to handle these emotions better we must also demonstrate better handling of emotions. It is alright to talk about this in the family. You can make decisions about ways to handle this that can change these patterns.
If this is your issue, good luck it can be done. Sherri