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C. Dwayne Shafer, MD, PhD

Wise word, Dr. Kowalski. As a doctor and pastor, I have always found honesty witht the young person the best route, even if it meant giving unpleasant information to the parents. It disturbs me when parents, especially divorced parents, who are prone to such mis-communication. If parents don't communicate (married or not), then the child can play one side against the other. For proper development, children must know that there is an objective standard of "right and wrong", and that all persons will adhere to these rules. Duplicity will only alienate the young person from the parent, and possibly both parents.

Debra Atkisson Kowalski, M.D.

Thanks Dr. Shafer. I think that observing our teen's interactions in the moment and discussing observations with them at the right time can be so helpful even if it is sometimes uncomfortable as a parent. Giving this guidance helps our teen develop ways to interact in a positive honest manner which stands them in good stead later in life.


Hey - I am definitely delighted to find this. Good job!

Sharon Cook, LCSW, LMFT

Thanks, I we appreciate your comments. Sherri

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