WHO’S RESPONSIBLE?

I see teenagers and young adults in my office. I continue to be surprised about how these young adults take or do not take responsibility for their actions. I hear things like: "I'm failing math but it is not my fault; the entire math department in my high school is bad." When I asked what she could do about math I was told she could organize the parents. I suggested she get a math tutor. " I could have not have been expected to pass the test on that book (Tom Sawyer) because have you ever read that book it is written in some other language." My personal favorite "I only got a DUI because the police in that state get a commission for giving tickets so they patrol the college campus areas trying to get people for DUIs." If it is always someone else's fault then we never have to take responsibility and change our behavior. As I have been thinking about writing this blog I realized that maybe as adults we model this behavior for our kids.

Even in myself I realize that there are times when I may make a less than optimal decision and I find a need to explain the reason I made that decision. So I think that the most important element here is that we model good responsibility taking behavior. I went to some training a number of years ago and the trainer said there is never a good reason to give when you have to apologize for your behavior. You simply say I'm sorry I was late - not I'm sorry I was late it was because there was more traffic than I expected. He told us if being on time had been important we would have made allowances for the possibility of bad traffic.

As you are living your life and raising your children, think about modeling taking responsibility for your actions.. When you hear these stories about why they are…… Help them to determine what actions they can take to alter that action. Our society needs all of us to take more responsibility for our decisions. Sherri

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